We should do a role call

[Julbella78]

Name:
Age:
Location (optional):
Children or due date:
A little about yourself:

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Name: Julie
Age: ekk, I'm almost 30!
Location (optional): Pennsylvania
Children or due date: Hannah Elizabeth (8/31/06)
A little about yourself: I'm a single mom to my little Hannah Banana. her father is not involved other than paying child support. He has never even seen a picture of her. I have two jobs. I'm a county social worker for individuals with mental health/mental retardation (this means I get paid squat). My second job which pays a heck of lot more than the first but is practically impossible to get into full time is as a crisis counselor at a regional hospital. Hannah and I attend church most Sundays and I try my best to raise her with the same opportunities that a child of a two parent house would have. We go to parks, on vacations, do mommy and me things. She's really a great kid. I'm truly blessed even if it is hard sometimes.

[babykitty]

Name: Kym
Age: 31
Location (optional): Chandler, AZ
Children or due date: Stephen ( 10 ) Alyssa ( 4 ) Keira (1)
A little about yourself: I've been a member of APA for a while. I was rayven, due to my abusive soon to be ex husband stalking me, both online and IRL, I had to cancel that account and create the babykitty account. I'm a single mom of 3 working as a corporate travel agent for American Express, living in a 2 bedroom apartment. Its soooo hard but worth it when I see my children happy they don't have to be afraid anymore. :) I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful man who I care for very much. He treats me and my kids, heck even my dog, well! :)

[tsnow]

Name: T
Age: 17 (my bday is in July)
Location (optional): KY
Children or due date: Due Nov. 28th
A little about yourself: Well, obviously I'm going to be a single mom. But, I'm not going to be one of the drop out statistic single teen moms. I'm heading off to my state university in August to major in Political Science. I'll get a LITTLE behind when the baby is born in November, but I won't be too far behind, since it will be close to the end of the semester...and my advisor is going to help me set it up to where I can still get my assignments from the professors. Anyway, I'm kind of excited, kind of nervous...well, kind of everything!
I'm hoping the single mom's forum picks up activity.

[dvlshlyswtmama]

Name: Jessica
Age: 22
Location (optional): Currently in Montana but looking to leave for my daughter's sake
Children or due date: Arianna and she was born on October 4th so she's only 7 months old!
A little about yourself: Arie's father continually said he wanted to be involved, but he was involved to the extent that he didn't help me at all and expected me to be the one to clean up his messes. Things have been really bad lately as in scary bad so momma bear has popped her claws and I'm trying to figure out how to make things right for my angel.

[rhiannasmoms43]

I am a regular on the Single Moms forum only because I was one for so long and there are different things only a single mom would understand that never happen in a 2-parent family life.

My fiancee and I broke up and I was a complete mess. The manager of the workout gym I frequented had been going through similar circumstances and we became confidants through that terrible time...then we became lovers...I got pregnant.
We were both still messed up about our exes and I, for one, had no interest in spending a lifetime with him. He has no interest in dd's life, has never seen her.

I stayed single until dd was 12 years old...then I fell in love with a wonderful guy and we now have a son together. It took a while for dd to accept she was sharing her mommy with someone else, but now she turns to dh when I am not around for advice and comfort...and money:winks:
Life is good.

[Snookie04]

Name: Donnell
Age: 26
Location (optional): Missouri
Children or due date: Paige (9 years), Kaitlyn (born-7-20-00 died-3-24-02) and Gabriella (11 weeks)
A little about yourself: I was a single mom for basically 5 years. The first year of Paige's life her father and I were together, but he was never around and never really did much for her. And we split up while I was pregnant with Kaitlyn. He last saw either of them in Aug. 2000. Kaitlyn was diagnosed at 8 months old with a brain tumor and after fighting the cancer for a year we lost her. When Paige was 5 years old my fiance and I started dating. I was very hesitant to let him into her life, but once I did everything fell into place. We now have another child together in addition to his 3 boys. Paige's father does not have anything to do with her. I have sole legal and actual custody of her and he has been denied all visitation and we have a strict no contact order. He was extremely violent towards me and since I was only 17 when we were dating and when most of the occurences that involved the police occurred it showed the judge he had violent tendancies toward minors. Well this was longer than I intended, so I will stop here.

[sweetxkc]

Name: Casey
Age: 22
Location (optional): Spain
Children or due date: 11 June 2008
A little about yourself: Hey all! I'm relatively new to APA, but have enjoyed and been encouraged by many of the single mom stories. I'm currently active duty military and am still debating on if I want to continue in the service. It's a really big decision. The baby's father is active duty as well and wants no part in the baby's life. It's a real sad messed-up situation, but I'm sure you all can relate in one form or fashion. Right now I'm just trying to keep my head up and do what I can to prepare for my lil baby girl to arrive.

[doveydee9]

Name:Britta
Age21
LocationKentucky
Children or Due dateMy first Due Nov 1
A lttle about yourself:I work at a restaraunt and its very tiring. The father and I have a healthy relationship, but aren't together. I am soo excited and scared, too. My mom raised 4 alone so I know what it takes.

[whatstheirname]

Name: Katie
Age: 22, but i'll be 23 when the beans born
Location (optional):Ontario Canada
Children or due date: Im due October 26th
A little about yourself: I got my degree and realized I could do squat with it, so Im back in school to become a nurse. I am currently in my last semester of school, and once the little guy is born I'll be starting placement and studying for my boards. Although the health care system is so different here, than it is in America, I still find this site to be a refreshing change from every non pregnant person out there. I've noticed moms are mean to newly expectant moms, If I hear "oh I never had m/s" one more time I'm gonna go crazy on that poor unsuspecting womans bum. On these boards you don't get that too much.

[squirrelgurl07]

Name: Vicki
Age: 19
Location (optional):Michigan
Children or due date: October 22nd
A little about yourself:

Well, Im single now because Eric left to "go to college in virginia" he promised he would talk to me. 8 weeks later and he logs on everyday. Makes sure I can see it and still doesnt talk to me. Only his mom. So I guess Im doing this alone .Im trying to figure out how to get over the pain of losing him (I truly truly loved him.) and taking care of myself and my little one.

[Oliveland]

Name: Kim
Age: 20
Location (optional):Airdrie, AB (Canada)
Children or due date: Ireland (March 15, 2006)
A little about yourself:

I don't know how much I consider myself a single parent anymore, but in a way I guess I still am. I broke up with DDs biological father when I was 7 months pregnant due to fighting and his consistant drug use. He threatened to take me to court as I was 18 and he "worked" (at a $10 an hour job *rolls eyes*) and I was finishing school. I have never heard from him since she was 2 days old (she's now 2 years). It suites us fine, she's a lovely loving, vibrant, funny, outgoing, smart little girl, who thrives on life and love. I don't ask my ex for child support because I know it would bring him around looking for visitations, and making our life a general hell. Him and his whole family are very unreliable, cold, uneducated, backstabbing, cruel, drug/alcohol abusing. I wish (in a way) I had noticed that at the age of 17...it would have saved me a lot of tears and stress, but on the plus side I have a beautiful daughter out of it.

Now I am dating a loving man, who has a child (that's a bit complicated in itself) that he cares for deeply, a good job, ownes him own house, vehicle, and loves my daughter as his own. We recently just moved in together, and have been looking at possibly TTC soon, and getting engaged. Life is mysterious how it works.

[carriecake]

I just want to add that you ladies are so strong and that men suck A**!!!!!!!

[squirrelgurl07]

Amen carrie I agree!

[squirrelgurl07]

oh yes, an update, were offically done. I found out hes living with a girl he met online and hes not planning on comming back.

[lilmango]

my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage from stress after the daddy said it would ruin his life and "i knew what i had to do" - in 2006/7
my second was intentional (and stupid on may part). he lived on the opposite coast and i thought i could safely have this baby without him, then as time grew on, i realized my family would be unsupportive, and my child would be resentful or forever curious and that i couldn't hide from the daddy. then my (male) boss started treating me like crap too. so i had an abortion in december. i felt awful but then again, like i made the best decision at the time. then i quit my job this january to pursue my dreams with my little amount of savings.
then in february i met and fell hard for a new guy, who is sensitive and supportive emotionally, and wants to be together. i got pregnant again and am 6 weeks right now. he's in the west and i'm in the east. he wants me to move back and move in with him. sounds all good except - he's broke with bad credit, and my family will flip about us not being married and "cohabiting". i'm too old to care, but then again i have traditional immigrant parents. i feel like no one can understand what i am going through!! i need to get back to work but am so hesitant about:
-giving up on my career dreams for now
-working full time while pregnant - i had suh a bad experience before, in the male-dominated world of consulting, it sucks.
-relocating while pregnant
-shacking up with a man i barely know, we've dated 3 months only
-don't want to go through abortion again, that was awful

i want to have this child.
can i just go to an island full of supportive women friends?
the 1st trimester is so emotional that i go from being happy to being pissed, and from deciding to move west to staying put. it's a roller coaster. i found a good yoga class. i am saving my pennies. i found an organizer to help me pack. but i am all alone. he's so broke he can't fly out here to help me. i am resentful, it keeps growing. at least now i stopped drinking. does anyone understand?

[rconfused]

Name: Becky
Age: 26
Location (optional): Texas
Children or due date: A little girl she is 6 yrs old.
A little about yourself: Well like everyone else i have had my share of a holes...I got with my ex husband after a months worth of relationship. We moved in together and of course i finished high school then we decided to have a baby. That was all good in its self. I stayed home for the whole pregnancy, after she was born i went to college and got a diploma which i dont use...we go married when i was 8 months, i knew is was a mistake but i did it any way. The whole 4 years that we were together were a disaster. We were fighting all the time. Then of course he was always throwing me out. 5 years ago i left never to go back with him and i have not.Well he has done a good job of being there for our daughter till me meet the fue fue girl...lol but i guess that men for you. I had not really meet anyone to start a relationship up unitll recently. He was a person from my past that i had dated when i was 14. I had always seen him and he had always made it a point to talk to me. We were great friends. We meet again at a club in Dec, and things just went from there. He knew my family and mine nows his. So it all worked out nice. So i thought. In march he gave me a spill that he didnt know what he wanted so i ended it with him. After two or three weeks we got back together. I had told him that i was ready to make a new life with someone. We had even talked about having a baby. I removed my IUD and we go at it. Of course somewhere in the mist he got the i dont know what i want again and he left me. I really wanted a baby, i didnt get it. I did think i was pg last month but it was false. Its only been one week but i miss him so much. Im trying to give him his space and maybe he will want to do it again. Or im just crazy for thinking that way. I dont know. Its going to take some time to get over him and what i wanted is going to be put on halt for a while. AGAIN. Im currently going to College Again so that i can get a degree in Chemistry. Well i out did myself...lol

[rconfused]

Lilimando, well I can understand the stress that it can bring to you, but hold your head up high the water stays deep only for a while. Then it will all clear up. You are doing this for yourself and your baby.

[squirrelgurl07]

Becky I know what you mean it is hard to get over them, sometimes almost impossible but we can make it. Why? Were female, its what we do best and it sounds like you know how to forget them.

May you join me in the quest for the search for the better verson of men

[lilmango]

ok so i told my family and it was a great surprise to me - but they were supportive and said congratulations, actually my father seemed to be the most excited! i figured out from long talks with my girlfriends that the crux of the matter - the cause of my stress - was worrying about what my folks were going to do or say (since we are not married and they haven't even met my man)... my dad said "do you have plans for getting married?" but really had so much excitement in his voice and kept saying "that's great" then my mom said "send us a picture of him". the stress i was havin wasn't about money, him, job, blah blah - it was over worrying about something i couldn't control anyways. it's crazy what the combination of hormones and the changes in life from being pregnant can do... anyways... to all the expecting moms - i feel like i can now fully share your joy!
lilmango (my nickname for my lil one due january)

[lilmango]

thank you! it is better!!!

[Diana26]

Just stopping by to tell u girls.... U ROCK! all of you!

[shaywa2]

Hello my name is Alisha have been a memeber of APA for awhile parent of Brandon 8 and Brian and Brendan who I placed for an open adoption he is 8 months now. I love it here this a place where women can come and get a boat load of support from each other because everyone situation is different and especially when your self esteem is low because some fear being a single mom and want the dad to help in some form but, this is a place where you have friends from all over the map who come for support and sometimes tough love because we need it sometimes. And APA has gotten me through some tough times. Plan on being on here forever.

[CamaLamaMama]

Name: Rachael
Age: 20
Location (optional): Illinois
Children or due date: Cameron Marie 18 months
A little about yourself: Well, its pretty complicated ladies! I got pregnant my senior year of high school around spring break. Camerons father was really abbusive and always cheating on me, it wasnt good for me or the baby, but i wanted her to have a father, I blame hormones for making me emotional. Then the last straw! At about a week before Cameron was born I found out her father is a sex offender. I didnt put him on any documents. He saw her once when he broke into our house, but thats been it. A restraining order and a a year and a half later, still hasnt been bothering us. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is great with my daughter, but until we tie the knot I'm still a single mommy!

[Julbella78]

Welcome Rachel! Sorry to hear about your ex but it sounds like you did the best for your baby. :)

[Mommy2Skyler]

:)

[jenibeni]

Hi all. Can I join?

Name: Jeni
Age: 26 almost 27
Location (optional): IL
Children or due date: Just one, my son, born 1/14/08
A little about yourself: I have been married for 3 years. We met when he was in A school at Greats Lakes (active duty Navy) and I was in my senior year of College in a school in chicagoland. We moved to VA where he was stationed after we got married and lived a great life. I had an amazing job, we lived in a tourist town, and besides him being deployed and all, we had a blast. We found out we were pg 5 months before his final deployment, so we decided to sell the house and move me back to IL to be with family until he got home and ultimetly got out. Last march, he emailed me and told me he doesn't want to be married anymore and has since gotten home from deployment and decided to live in VA instead of coming here to be with his family. So, I am still married, but since DH was deployed since DS was born, I guess I have been a single mom since DS was born and it will continue to be that way.

[whitmeg]

Name: Whitney.
Age: 20, soon to be 21
Location (optional): Alaska
Children or due date: Landon 2-27-08
A little about yourself:
Well where to start... Landon's Father and I had been together off and on for about a year, then I got pregnant. He wanted nothing to do with me or my pregnancy at first then a month or so later he stepped up and was with me until Landon was 2 months old... He's in the Army and claims to have no time for Landon but can spend what free time he has at the bar. So I decided to go after child support (still in the process) and now its just me and my Babylove and I wouldnt change a thing in the world!! Sure times get rough but I would rather have a thousand rough days then have Landon's father hurt him by popping in and out of his life!

[Ki_She]

Kisha
25
NC
2 boys(twins) 1 Girl

My little ones all have the same father. There father and I had a brief relationship during college. The messed up part is that he continued his education while I took care of our premature twins (born @32 weeks). He served me partial custody papers along with child support. when they were 6 weeks old after not seeing them for 3 weeks. When it was all said and done the court system ordered him to pay $92.00 monthly for twins. He had the gall to ask the judge if his parents could have separate visitation (denied). Even after all of the pain and heart ache we later tried to work things out(wrong move). Even after being vigilant about birth control I became pregnant with my baby girl. Even though things didn't work out I'm blessed with having 3 beautiful healthy kiddies whom I love more than my own life! As of now I work 10 hours a day 4 days a week as an operator. Code for the pay sucks. He was ordered to pay $1200.00 monthly. PS. There father is getting married to the women he cheated on me with this weekend.

[sweetxkc]

Kisha,
Sounds like you're a very strong woman.. Someone who definitely deserves better than what he is! Seeing as though he cheated on you with her, he'll probably do the same to her. Nonetheless, karma will get him one way or another.. Keep your head up girl. =)

[CamaLamaMama]

So I gave you ladies a quick story about Cameron birth father. In the last year and a half there have been a few issues, with break ins, and harasment and violating the restraning order. I got a sapina (sp) in the mail for a court date, for the violation of the restraning order. I called the states attourney, and the other cases have been closed because I didnt go to court for them, well, they had been mailing all the info to the wrong address! This means, I wont be able to take him to court for anything except the phone calls that violate the restraning order, and he is out on bail! Someone paid almost 2,500 for his sorry butt to be back out of jail. I am so worried that maybe he will try for custody, I just dont want to have to worry about this anymore! Cami and I have moved on and my boyfriend and I have made a wonderful home for her, I just wish he would go away.... Sorry about the vent, I just needed to let that out. :headbang:

[sweetxkc]

Rachael,
Sounds like you're dealing with a really troubled guy. I hope that your boyfriend is staying with you and your baby girl, because that's what I'd be most worried about, just your general safety. I don't think that the court would grant him custody of the baby, especially being a prior sex offender and because of his continual violations.. I'll keep you and your lil one in my prayers nonetheless.. try not to stress too much, I'm sure Cami doesn't want to see mommy in that state, and you, everyone here and I know that it's all about our babies. =) Take care of yourself though girl!

[CamaLamaMama]

Rachael,
Sounds like you're dealing with a really troubled guy. I hope that your boyfriend is staying with you and your baby girl, because that's what I'd be most worried about, just your general safety. I don't think that the court would grant him custody of the baby, especially being a prior sex offender and because of his continual violations.. I'll keep you and your lil one in my prayers nonetheless.. try not to stress too much, I'm sure Cami doesn't want to see mommy in that state, and you, everyone here and I know that it's all about our babies. =) Take care of yourself though girl!
My boyfriend lives with me, but has been visting his family for about three weeks now, he will be home wednesday morning. I can't wait!:wub: Thanks for the prayers, I am trying not to stress, but nonetheless he worries me alot. Each single mom has thier own struggles, I just need to deal with mine!

[Valerie719]

Hi Everyone!
I'm Valerie
I'm 32.
I live in Mass.

I have one daughter who is 11.
I been divorced for 10 years. I been doing it all on my own ever since the beginning. I am an HHA for children. My daughter was born with multiple health problems. Had many heart surgeries and even a spinal surgery last month so my role is more like nurse mom..
Hard but so worth every minute. She is doing wonderful and Now I may be expecting! WIll be so different from raising my daughter because she was always in the hospital and always had oxygen or feeding tubes. So it will be a blast!!
If I am not preggo I will keep trying!

:woot:

[katastic]

Name: Katrina
Age: 17
Children: Jayden, 7 mo.
A little about me: Recently single. My ex and I are still best friends and he is definitely still in our daughters life... right now we just decided to focus on Jayden and our schoolwork and jobs. In a year or two maybe we'll be at a better place to make it work, but right now we both feel that trying to force a relationship will damage it completely :)

[katastic]

Uhm and now I'm fully single. My ex is sleeping around with at least 3 other girls that I know about. So much for focusing on other things, huh?

Men.

[CamaLamaMama]

Uhm and now I'm fully single. My ex is sleeping around with at least 3 other girls that I know about. So much for focusing on other things, huh?

Men.
Sometimes its just to just let go. His loss I am sure! Be strong mama!

[future0502]

Name: Daetriel
Age: 20
Location (optional):Phoenix AZ
Children or due date: about to be 2 on the 20th
A little about yourself:
I just graduated from cosmetology school a month ago and about to start my degree in fashion marketing on the 18th. I am so excited. I may be pregos again and I dont know how I feel about it yet.

[CamaLamaMama]

Guys, we are so bad at keeping up in here!

[garzagirl]

Name: Jessica
Age: 26
Location (optional): Northern Virginia
Children or due date: Feb 1 2009
A little about yourself: Im expecting my first child the Feb 1st. Meet my boyfriend(well ex) in Florida he wants no part in the childs life so i've made the decision to move back to my hometown with my family and friends. Still going through alot of pain and tearful nights,but eventually im gonna pull through and get stronger.

[CamaLamaMama]

Name: Jessica
Age: 26
Location (optional): Northern Virginia
Children or due date: Feb 1 2009
A little about yourself: Im expecting my first child the Feb 1st. Meet my boyfriend(well ex) in Florida he wants no part in the childs life so i've made the decision to move back to my hometown with my family and friends. Still going through alot of pain and tearful nights,but eventually im gonna pull through and get stronger.

WTG! We are here for you mama! CONGRATS!!!

[sweetxkc]

Name: Jessica
Age: 26
Location (optional): Northern Virginia
Children or due date: Feb 1 2009
A little about yourself: Im expecting my first child the Feb 1st. Meet my boyfriend(well ex) in Florida he wants no part in the childs life so i've made the decision to move back to my hometown with my family and friends. Still going through alot of pain and tearful nights,but eventually im gonna pull through and get stronger.

Stay strong Jessica! I hear you, Amaia's dad wants nothing to do with her either, but remember there's always a rainbow after the storm and that baby is going to be the most beautiful one EVER! =) Keep your head up girl!

[desertgirl]

Name: Megan
Age: 20
Location (optional): Arizona
Children or due date: Sean almost 2yrs and Lucas 2 months
A little about yourself: I met my DH when I was 16, he was 21. I got married to him when I was 17, just 11 months after we met 4 of which he was deployed. We fought a lot and he started becoming violent at times, I became his housewife, not allowed to work or go out and that was that. Then I got pregnant a month before I turned 18 and decided to try to make it work but when we would fight he would push me, pushed me flat onto my back and even hit me once while I was pregnant with my first, I still stayed. When Sean was 3 months old we separated but still lived together and ended up getting back together. The fighting continued and finally I just stopped talking and would do everything so as not to fight, cook, clean, everything. He pushed me while I would be holding our son and once during a fight I pushed him away from me and ran with my son into the bedroom but he kicked the door in. I still stayed. Then I got pregnant again. I had learned to keep my mouth shut while he was home and so I enjoyed my days alone at home with my son, mostly talking to my only friends, my APA ladies :-). He was very distant and uninvolved in the parenting and with the pregnancy. One night about a month before he was scheduled to deploy to Iraq we started fighting and I said something and he punched my face and fractured my nose. Thats when I knew I had to leave. Three weeks after he deployed I gave birth the my second son Lucas in the front seat of my moms car. Since then the 3 of us have been happy, there's no fighting, no hitting, no yelling and mommy's ok. He is due back in less than 2 weeks and I have decided I have to get out before he comes back. I dont know how yet but I'll do it. I have to, for me and for my babies.

[rhiannasmoms43]

Megan!
OMG I am so sorry you have had to deal with all of this.
I'm glad you are getting out! This cycle of abuse can only worsen, and you don't want your babies exposed to all of this.
I hope you have family and friends who will help you through this.
Please consider counselling as well, or you may end up in a similar situation the next time around.
Big squeezy bone crushing hugs honey.
Everything will work out.
Just stay strong.

[Snookie04]

Megan, I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I too was in an abusive relationship with my first 2 pregnancies and it finally got to be too much. It took a lot for me to stand up and get the courage to leave, but I did and now 8 years later I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made and I wish I had done it sooner. The only good that came of it was my 2 beautiful girls. I am now in a relationship that is so much healthier for me and my kids. Life isn't perfect, but it never is. He doesn't hit me though and he respects me when I stand up to him for something I believe in rather than belittling me. You and your kids deserve to be happy and can be. It will nto always be easy, but what you are already going through is so much harder. Good luck and if you ever want to chat just PM me.

[rconfused]

Well Hello all.
It had been a long trip these last 9 months. I have finally stopped taking him back...:laugh:lol I do feel like i lost a lot of time in the process, but it is for the best. My daughter misses him as well as his daughter miss me. His family still keeps in touch with me. I am ready to be single again and stay that way until i finish school or someone that comes my way is worth my time again. Which right now i know there is not man worth my time. I guess because im not ready. But for the time being i give up:truce: whats the point. Men are all the same. You give them many chances to change or decide and they still mess up. Me and My daughter are doing great right now and with school we are both very occupied with that. Thank you all for your comments and support.

[squirrelgurl07]

you must remember they may seem to dominate us but in the end were the animal trainers and their the animal, some just cant be trained. (sorry men , its the way I see it) :D

[AmyRenee1923]

Name: Amy
Age: 20
Children: Eva 18 months

I've been here for a while and a lot of you know my whole shebang.... lets just say I'm almost divorced:hooray:

[mami_minnie]

Name: Mignon or Minnie
Age: 28
Location (optional): Harvey, Louisiana
Children or due date: Rayhanah 3 expecting 2nd child on 16 Jun 09
A little about yourself: Well, I have been a stay at home mom for the past year. After I was mediclly discharged from the Air Force I chose to stay home cause I thought it would be better for my daughter and I. I couldnt work due to severe migraines any way. Medication and frequency of migraines made it almost impossible. I have moved around a lot during the past year. I was hoping that a move back home would be good for me but not two weeks after being home, I was raped and now I am pregnant as a result. Still not sure what I will do about this. So another move is probably in the horizon for me. I want to be stable for my daughter and with the divorce that I am going through all of this could make it easier for my husband to get full custody of Rayhanah. Dont know what I will do if that happens!! I've been talking to my pastor in Georgia and he has been a big help. So I will continue to pray and see what happens.

[BabyMo]

Well ... all you youngsters posting on here! hee hee .... I'm almost 40! I have an almost 17 year old son!

After being married five years, I divorced my son's father when my son was two years old. His father has seen him and spent time with him over the years so I have no qualms with that. His dad lives in another state so I have pretty well been the primary caregiver to my son for 15 years.

One day, this summer, I was swept off my feet by a guy .... at 40, I should call him a man, but I still feel so young that I still reference the male species as guys! lol .... After a brief romance, a misunderstood break-up (at 40, a girl isn't willing to change many aspects of her life .... children, career, and friends are pretty set and very stable), I told him the situation. He says he wants to be part of this but I haven't heard from him for days now .... He is a very responsible "step up to the plate" kinda guy who is a great dad to his pre-teen daughter. Neither of us planned this or even thought it was possible.

I tell myself everyday that I raised my first one primarily alone and that I can raise this one alone as well. But, I don't want to. I want this baby to have the family until in a traditional setting that my first son didn't have.

NOW, HEAR THIS!!!!! to all of you women who are posting on here as single moms .... this may be a wonderful thing for you!!!! Divorced with a two year old at age 25 .... now 15 years later .... I have achieved the highest level of education possible at a Carnegie 1 University .... I run my own pediatric outpatient therapeutic services practice ..... I'm very happy. My son, besides the typical high school BS that goes on, is also in his heart a very good solid stable young man with a bright future. I guess when I was facing the hardest times I became the strongest person. You can do it, too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JulieP]

My name is Julie and I am 27 years old. I have four kids. I have twin DD's that are 7 years old. My son is 4.5 yrs. old and I have a 3 month old DD. My DH left when my DD was 6 weeks old. He just moved into his own place yesterday and is seeing a lawyer today. I am super scared of being a single mom to 4 kids, but things have been so much calmer and I don't feel like I am walking on eggshells anymore. DH has already been with other women etc. There is no way we will ever be getting back together. We have been married for 9 years and we have broken things off before, but this time it is really it. I can't take being treated like **** for the rest of my life, so I am done. I am so thankful that he chose this and I woke up and realized how much I don't need him. Me and the kids have been doing great without him. He has been coming to see them every other weekend. He is also taking all 3 of our dogs which really makes me even more excited.

[MrsH]

Bump

[ali's june baby]

I'm Ali, 30. I'm am not "officially" single, but as some of you know from times way back, my DH and I have had an up and down roller coaster relationship. We are likely getting a divorce sometime this year- we were going to hold out until the economy turned around as neither one of us can afford the mortgage alone and the house will probably not sell with the real estate market as it is. But, it is likely we will both be making house payments and figuring it all out. To make a long story short, he didn't want my DS when he was born. About 12 months into DS's life, he began taking an active roll and our relationship got better because of it. This June I had my second, and he refuses to accept her. He claims she is not his (which is ridiculous). He will not hold her, change her, feed her, nothing. It has pushed me over the edge and I hate the emotional damage it does to both DD and DS (because he is old enough to see that Daddy doesn't care about his sister). DH travels for work and when he is not out of town for work, he is out of town on a "guys" trip. So, more or less, I am doing this on my own.

[Julbella78]

Ali, I'm so sorry. :( I don't know how a father can treat his own children that way.

[ali's june baby]

Ali, I'm so sorry. :( I don't know how a father can treat his own children that way.

Me neither! Unfortunately it seems to be more of a commonplace because so may of us seem to deal with it :(.

[noleprincess]

Name: Michele Smith
Age: 32
Location (optional): Jacksonville, Florida
Children or due date: 3 boys (11, 8, 10 months)
A little about yourself: I am a single mother of 3 boys that I love dearly. I have basically been a single mom from day one. I just got my divorce finalized last September, but he was never around and we spent more time apart than together. With this last seperation, we were apart about 5 years before it was finalized. He has no contact whatsoever so it is just the 4 of us (my youngest has a different father so occassionally he shows up for the baby but mostly it is just us). I learned about this board from my sister who is expecting again and thought I would check it out. I am a current member of the forums on pregnancy.org and love it especially the February '08 board. I got to know some of those ladies pretty well, and while I was pregnant, they were a great support group. I think I will love it here as well. Thanks to all for reading and I look forward to sharing things with you.

[amandab3342]

NAME: AMANDA
LOCATION: AZ
AGE: 23
KIDDOS: MATTHEW (5), PREGGO WITH A BABY GIRL DUE JUNE 17, 09

My story is i have a great lil guy Matthew who is the light of my life..His dad and i were together for almost six years. went thru some tough times and ended up breaking up. Meanwhile i meet a guy who I THOUGHT was my prince charming and all that AND the bag of chips. Well, we got pregnant in Sept and we were both really happy... BUT he started showing his true colors when i let him move in.. jealous of my 5 year old, thought i was lazy my first trimester, got arrested for speeding with a suspended license went to jail lost his job, always calling his mommy for everything and THEN he pulled my son;s hair to get him away from the tv, which his mom condoned because he was raised that way.SOOO i ditched him and having been dealing with his bs ever since. I try not to talk much to him because he is always threatening me with court crap. He wants joint custody of my daughter when she is born. He tries to invite himself to all my dr apts, and thinks me telling him no, thats private helps his case. HIs mom is crazy and sends me rude texts defending him and gets upset when i never respond. SO.... that leads to my Feelin Guily thread.

[Ash31184]

my son's name is Landen!!! Nice choice!

[Ash31184]

Name: Ashley
Age: 24
Location: Rhode Island
Children: Alana (2/8/04) and Landen (7/27/08)

Where to start... I raise my two children on my own. I became pregnant for my daughter at 19 years old. Her father, who is 5 years older than I am, was far from thrilled. We had not been dating for very long... when I refused to have an abortion, he told me to never bother him again. So, I didn't. He has never met her. He comes around approximately every 6 months to attempt a "hook up". I receive barely anything in monetary support.

My son's father and I met through my work. He is the father of a former daycare child. He "swept me off my feet" with flowers, gifts and incredible restaraunts. He is 11 years older than I am. He was controlling, arrogant and belittling. When I became pregnant he called me EVERY name in the book, including a gold digger. He also became NEEDY and unreasonable. Calling at 3 a.m.... and when I would insist on sleeping he would get angry... tell me my needs dont matter. A woman should be satisfied with making her man happy...

So, needless to say, I ditched him. I had a VERY difficult pregnancy with my son... (preterm labor at 28 weeks, preeclampsia at 34) but it was worth it. I had my little man at 34 weeks and a beefy 5lbs. 11oz.

[PurplePasion]

Name: everyone calls me Purple
Age: 31
Location (optional): aurora, Il, but not for long
Children or due date: DS#1 (15),DS#2 (7), Abigail Serah-Louise (BD 4/7/09)
A little about yourself:

I don't even know where to begin. I got pg in highschool to my boyfriend of 2 years and refused to have an abortion and our relationship ended there. I gave my life to God that year. I constantly prayed that God would bring a man into my life that would take us both as his own and love us. I met my ex in college and he was my knight in shining armor for a while. He was everything I could have hoped for. A pastor at his church, college professor, stable, strong, handsome, the works. We got married and soon he started to change. His jokes became demeaning and rude, he would go out with his "frat bros" and come home at all hours of the night, his "discipline" to DS#1 became harsh. When I got pg three months into our marriage all he!! broke loose and he became so abusive. A few months after DS#2 was born I got pg again and he beat that child out of me and I had to run away. I was in hiding for several years. I spent most of those years angry at God, and I began to back slide into a world that I had never known even before I gave my life to him. I tried to keep my night life seperate from my boys because I was ashamed of some of the things I did. I got pg a few more times but God saw fit to let me lose those, but not this time. Up until this pg I thought I wouldn't be able to have anymore children because of the things my ex did to me. I'm happy to be pg especially since I'm having my little princess. I've wanted a daughter more than anything in the world. Her father and I met and got drunk and I got pg on the first night but we continued to see each other before we knew I was pg. When I found out he was overly excited and I was pessimistic. As the pg continued so did our relationship, but I knew it couldn't last since we have little to nothing in common. 7 months later, he doesn't come around anymore like he did in the beginning and my heart is breaking again. I realize that this is my own fault so I can't be mad at anyone but myself, but it still hurts.

Here is the ugly truth that I have not been able to speak about until now...

[rhiannasmoms43]

Purple...:hugs:...that is all I have to say.


Ok I lied. I'm really glad that you had the strength to leave the abuse. Too many women lack that survivor's instinct. Your children will see your strength and your expectations of how to be treated and they will end the cycle.
Congratulations on your pregnancy.

[kris1845]

Name: Kristin
Age: 24
Location (optional): Long Island, NY
Children or due date: August 13th
A little about yourself: Well, I was waiting till marriage to have sex.. and apparently that didn't last. I had a purity ring and made a vow that I would stay pure and I didn't. I held out pretty long though, 23. I lost it to my boyfriend a year and half ago and now he is my ex. We still were sleeping together though after (stupid move) and now I am pregnant. He said he will never be with me again.. which is fine.. but he isn't really even involved soo I am joining the single moms club. I am scared, excited, nervous and every other emotion all wrapped into one right now.

[rhiannasmoms43]

Welcome Kristin.
Pregnancy is a scary and exciting time for anyone, so you are right on schedule:laugh:
Congratulations.
Who needs a man anyway?

[Danic]

I've just realised I forgot to present myself.

Name: Nathalie
Age: 40 (got PG at 38) :)
Location: Canada - I speak French.
Children: One child: Danika 15 months old
A little about yourself: I thought Danika's father was the love of my life. Things changed once I got PG the first time. He was furious, but when I miscarried he got all nice and mushy. Still NPP, 2 months later I got PG again. I was so happy, but feared telling him. I did not m/c and had to tell him. He changed, turned into a very bad person, verbally abusive and almost physically as well. He left as I was around 5 months PG. I got to enjoy my PG until he came back around the week I had my c section. We "tried" to make it work, but it was already doomed to fail. We sold our house and seperated. it's the BEST decision I've made. I thought I'd never have a child cause of my choice of partners. I always chose the kind that fears commitment. But I got my miracle baby girl, she is the best. I can't beleive how gorgeous and loving she is. I've been blessed. I finally am united with my special little girl.:wub:

[CarolineC]

Name: Caroline
Age: 23 / 24 in april
Location (optional): Rochester, New york
Children or due date: Sept 1, 2009
A little about yourself: This is my second time being pregnant, first time I made a mistake and aborted the child, this time I want to do what I feel is best instead of listening to any man. Im happy and excited to have this baby. I have a pretty good job and i just started working full time. I can trasnfer to any state in the U.S.A and still keep my job. I dont want anything from the baby's father. We didnt date, but were "with" eachother for almost 2 months, we have no plans of even trying to be together. I also get the feeling that he has no plans to be part of this baby's life.

[rhiannasmoms43]

Welcome Caroline.
Your almost exactly in the same position That I was in when I got pregnant with dd. There was no intention of any relationship, so the pregnancy didn't create any false expectation.
Congratulations on your pregnancy, and I am glad you have decided to keep this little one.
Hugs

[tauruslady511]

Name: Monica
Age: 33
Location (optional): Maryland
Children or due date: 14 and 1.5
A little about yourself: I'm a single mom to two great male children who I love more than I can describe; however, I'm finding that I'd like to have more out of my life. I have a great job, financially secure, but I would like to have someone (an adult male) with whom I can share my life. The kids' father is very active in their lives; during pregnancy, I found out that he was seeing someone. It's fine. At 33, I don't need such stress in my life and I called it quits after 16 years. My only gripe is that I wish their father were financially active in their lives, it would help me out significantly. Anyhoo, hope to get to know you all.

[amy_elise]

Name: Whitney.
Age: 20, soon to be 21
Location (optional): Alaska
Children or due date: Landon 2-27-08
A little about yourself:
Well where to start... Landon's Father and I had been together off and on for about a year, then I got pregnant. He wanted nothing to do with me or my pregnancy at first then a month or so later he stepped up and was with me until Landon was 2 months old... He's in the Army and claims to have no time for Landon but can spend what free time he has at the bar. So I decided to go after child support (still in the process) and now its just me and my Babylove and I wouldnt change a thing in the world!! Sure times get rough but I would rather have a thousand rough days then have Landon's father hurt him by popping in and out of his life!

Saw your post and wanted to let you know in case you didn't that if your baby's father is in the military your child is entitled to Tricare health benefits until he is 21 or until the dad leaves the service in most cases. (They may want a paternity test, but it is worth it!) Its FANTASTIC health care and should cost you next to nothing in co-pays and such. I had Tricare all growing up.(I had a $50,000 hospital bill and my parents only had to pay $50!) You may also be able to get life insurance and other services through USAA for your son, they are a great company and kids of service members are usually eligible. Just thought you should know! PM me if you have any questions. : )

[CarolineC]

Its so nice seeing all the mom's and their chridlen. Haha sry had to put it in =)

[LoveBugK]

Hi :wave:
Name: Katie
Age: 26
Location (optional): Louisiana
Children or due date: 4(soon to be 5) and 1
A little about yourself: I am still married, legally, but I have been a single mom(he left us) since Aug 2008. I have really been taking care of the kids all by myself all of their lives, though. He hasn't ever been much help. :headbang: I am loving taking care of my kids without having a 3rd child(him) to take care of!!! lol!!! But other then that, Hi!! And I cant wait to get to know everybody better!!

p.s. we gotta get this room more active! :)

[CarolineC]

It seams like all the posts in here get deleted...

[mom2chance]

Name: Tasha
Age: 32
Location (optional):
Children or due date: 23 August 2009
A little about yourself: I am a mom to angel baby son, who was born and gained angel wings last year. Unfortunately, I'm having a baby with a man that I do not and have never thought to be his partner. He has disappeared, and I'm glad, as he made me absolutely miserable. I am still on the fence about keeping this baby.

[rhiannasmoms43]

Name: Tasha
Age: 32
Location (optional):
Children or due date: 23 August 2009
A little about yourself: I am a mom to angel baby son, who was born and gained angel wings last year. Unfortunately, I'm having a baby with a man that I do not and have never thought to be his partner. He has disappeared, and I'm glad, as he made me absolutely miserable. I am still on the fence about keeping this baby.

I can only give you hugs. I was where you are now, pregnant with a guy I had no intention of having a permanent relationship with..and yes I too thought of not keeping the baby.
She is 16 now, the beautiful girl in my siggy. She is one of my best friends and the heart of my heart.

I cannot imagine life without her.:wub::wub::wub:

[GennD]

Name: Genn
Age: 24
Location (optional): Plattsburgh, NY
Children or due date: 3 week-old
A little about yourself: I had a daughter 3 1/2 years ago who I ended up giving up for adoption at three months old, as I was in a very bad marriage with a drug addict and we couldn't get our lives right. I started divorce proceedings shortly after. A year later I met a man who was a drug addict in recovery and we entered into a two year relationship. He was mildly abusive in the beginning, started secretly using drugs again, and escalated to seriously abusive. I finally left him and found out I was pregnant. I was supposed to be temporarily infertile, due to a medication that escalated my hormone levels. So I wasn't being careful but we were intimate only 1 time in months!!! I didn't want any children any time soon because I wanted to be more advanced in life so I could make amends for my daughter. I also wasn't over letting her go yet. I considered terminating the pregnancy but couldn't do it, even though I knew my ex would make me miserable. We tried to work it out and he made my life hell. I suffered an attempted miscarriage because of his abuse and the stress he caused. I left and have since given my life a makeover. I now have the life I've wanted for a long time. I adapted to the pregnancy and am now blessed with my little boy. His father is useless...likes to claim my son over the internet and such, but wouldn't contribute to any of the extensive expenses I dealt with due to the pregnancy. Has never asked for any pictures or info and keeps telling people around town that he's "going to let me keep the baby for now" But it's okay, I busted my butt to make a life for my son and I and now I can be proud of my hard work! I have found someone wonderful to share our lives with, he is the greatest man I've ever met and I am so glad that my son will be influenced by someone decent and supportive!

[Julbella78]

Welcome Genn. I'm glad that things are looking up for you.

[Dedileb]

Name:Dania
Age: 28
Location: Chicago/PR
Due: Oct 19th
About me: after being separated from my husband for sometime we got divorced and 5 months later had a "last time run" kinda thing and of course now i am almost 3 months prego and we arent getting back together so here i am joining the single moms club

nice to meet you all!!! good luck and best wishes!!

[whatstheirname]

It seams like all the posts in here get deleted...

no worries the post arn't deleted, just inactive. To view them just select the "from the last" button at the bottom left hand of the screen and choose a time frame.

[kris1845]

It's really nice to know that there are other women who are going through the same thing (as crumby as it can be)...but I am glad there is somewhere like this to connect to other single moms. I am usually posting in my August DD room but I would really like to get to know you ladies too.. Lord knows I am going to have tonssss of questions lol.

[CarolineC]

no worries the post arn't deleted, just inactive. To view them just select the "from the last" button at the bottom left hand of the screen and choose a time frame.



oh hehe. didnt know, thanks!

[dancerchica5416]

Name: Shalene
Age: 22
Children or due date: Cayden - 8 mos old
A little about yourself: I am a completely single mommy - my son's father doesn't contribute in any way, shape, or form (by my choice). He was a very emotionally unstable person because he suffered extreme abuse from his mother so I decided that my son was better off with no male role rather than a bad one. When we were together we were trying to get pregnant because I think we were both searching for love that we couldn't provide each other. I wasn't at the best point in my life to get pregnant but I thank God everyday for the miracle He has given me... I never knew exactly what my life was missing until my little man came into my life :-)
I'm so glad there is a single mommy's support group on here because no one can truly understand just how hard this is unless you've been there yourself. :)

[arwen041988]

Name:Allyson (Ally)
Age:21
Location (optional): Howell, Mi
Children or due date:12/25/2009
A little about yourself: Where to start? I thought that I found my price charming. He got me out of a three year abusive relationship. We have been ttc for the past few months. Just found out last week that we are expecting. But he says that he doesnt know if he is ready or if he wants to be with me or go back to his ex that he has a kid with. I am so scared of rasing this baby on my own. His parents said that they will help. But I am just so scared that I wont be able to do this. I only work part time and I have been trying to find another job, but the economy is really tough. I dont know what to do. I am heartbroken that he feels this way. And it is so scary.

[angelndrsn]

Name: Angel Anderson
Age: 27
Location (optional): Oakland, CA
Children or due date: Due: August 22, 2009
A little about yourself: My name is Angel and i'll be a to-be single mother. My ex wants nothing to do with this pregnancy. I live in CA by myself (no family or relatives near this state), was originally here just for my job, but now im trying to establish a home for me and my baby. I might or might not move back to WA where all my family and support is at. For now though, I am trying to be financially ready for this baby (in a sense is impossible since this will be my 1st)

[Julbella78]

Welcome girls.

Angel, if I were you I would move back home. Support is something that you need in groves when you become a single parent. There are many times when if it weren't for my family I would have pulled my hair out.

[angelndrsn]

Welcome girls.

Angel, if I were you I would move back home. Support is something that you need in groves when you become a single parent. There are many times when if it weren't for my family I would have pulled my hair out.

Yeah i hear ya, right now i just think b/c of the economy and whats going on in the world. I should try and stay in CA for my medical benefits. But yes, i was going to start looking for a transfer or another job in WA.

[little_momma]

Name: Bridget
Age: 19
Location: Iowa
Children : Bailey 10 Months
A little about me: I was engaged to a guy he passed in an accident than miscarried and than met up with my soon to be ex and got pregnant and after almost two years of marriage i've had enough and filed. I know i can be a better adn stronger mommie than to be stuck wtih a loesr that just settlese for average! I am planning on going to school this fall :fingerscrossed: hopefully.!

[JulieP]

Welcome Bridget. Sounds like you have a good plan and you need to stay strong!!!

[BabyMo]

My story is good!!!!!

My first son is 17 years old. My second son will be born in two weeks.

Divorced my first son's dad when my son was two years old. My second son is totally an "accident" ... lol. It was hard at first but we've made it and will continue to do fine!

As a single parent, I have finished a bachelors, masters, and doctoral degree WITHOUT a penny of government assistance. We have a gorgeous house in the country with a dog and cat and our own big pond for fishing!

YES, I've worked my tail off over the years, but I did it and so can anyone else!!!! The child support I received was $62.30 a week for 15 years so I didn't survive off child support or any family money .... sometimes I worked three jobs while going to school and many times we lived off "cornbread and ramen noodles."

Don't give up on yourself or your dreams! Set your mind to it and get going!!!!! "Follow your heart's desires!"

[Julbella78]

My story is good!!!!!

My first son is 17 years old. My second son will be born in two weeks.

Divorced my first son's dad when my son was two years old. My second son is totally an "accident" ... lol. It was hard at first but we've made it and will continue to do fine!

As a single parent, I have finished a bachelors, masters, and doctoral degree WITHOUT a penny of government assistance. We have a gorgeous house in the country with a dog and cat and our own big pond for fishing!

YES, I've worked my tail off over the years, but I did it and so can anyone else!!!! The child support I received was $62.30 a week for 15 years so I didn't survive off child support or any family money .... sometimes I worked three jobs while going to school and many times we lived off "cornbread and ramen noodles."

Don't give up on yourself or your dreams! Set your mind to it and get going!!!!! "Follow your heart's desires!"

Thank you for sharing your story. What an inspiration!!! :hugs:

[MommyofGloria]

Name: Chasity
Age: 20
Location (optional):mississippi
Children or due date:Gloria Antoinette(7 months) Due Jan 20 with Baby#2
A little about yourself: I am a 20 year old who was married from age 18, i was a army wife. My husband and i got pregnant in april of 2008, my daughter was born in october 20088 two months premature. 2 weeks after i got pregnant he deployed to d.c. where i could not join him. in july he cheated and impregnated another girl. i FOUND OUT IN DECEMBER. i left him and we divorced. I started dating a guy from North Dakota in the air force i had known for 3 years. We got into a big arguementwere engaged and he beat me, to get him off i bit him i was arrested, little did i know i was pregnant. i am waiting court date which i was given a continuance until im showing more so the judge can see i was pregnant when he beat me. He goes to court monday and has 2 felony charges through the air force i did not know about it. I am a single mom to my7 month old Gloria her dad gets her every other week. And this baby is denied by rhe guy , he refuses to help with medical or anything. so i hate him and will not associate with him and he wont ever associate with his child..

[Rainstorms]

Name: Nickcole "Nikki"
Age: 26
Location (optional): Florida
Children or due date: one 3 1/2 yo and one on the way!
SINGLE MOM!

[Rainstorms]

I can only give you hugs. I was where you are now, pregnant with a guy I had no intention of having a permanent relationship with..and yes I too thought of not keeping the baby.
She is 16 now, the beautiful girl in my siggy. She is one of my best friends and the heart of my heart.

I cannot imagine life without her.:wub::wub::wub:

I too am pregnant by a man I have no intentions of being with. I soon have to meet his parents. He is very irresponsible and doesn't really want a baby. I am on the fence about giving the baby up for adoption but am getting so much support from this website and others that I think I might be able to make it single with 2 kids.
GOD BLESS!

[Ash31184]

Hi everyone.... let's see... I am a single mom to 2 children. My daughter, Alana is 5 1/2 years old. My son, Landen, is 10 1/2 months old. Neither of my children havw a 'daddy' in their lives. I do receive ( minimal) child support from each! I work full time in a home daycare. I plan to attend school, starting in August, to become a phlebotomist. I would love to chat with everyone more!

[GatorMommy]

Hi everyone..
I have a little different situation than most of you here...I am single and becoming a single mom by choice. I always have wanted to be a mom and with my past careers and working as much as I did, I somehow "forgot" :) to date and find the man of my dreams! ;)

So, I am now 16 1/2 weeks pregnant (with a donor) and am scared to death and excited about my new life to come. I look forward to getting to know you all better and agree that we need to make this a more active group!!

[garzagirl]

I'm a single parent my son Noah is 5 1/2 months. I havent heard from his dad since April, he deleted his email.myspace and his phone # doesnt work. but thats okay I get to raise an awesome baby and in the end its his loss not mine! I get to be blessed to raise a son, and hes blessed with nothing!
I just dont get how he's involved in his daughters life(she's 11) and not want anything to do with is son..and noah looks just like him..everyone who see's noah, says oh he must look like his dad. Kinda sucks that Noah has a sister that he'll never meet(or wont meet her until hes an adult).
Im hoping that my son will like to do karate..so in 20yrs he can find his dad and kick his ass! My ex doesnt knwo I did a background check..so I know everything addresses,SS#! I love having a bestfriend as a cop lol.

[foggybuggy]

blah, who cares.

[purplerose1978]

Name: Michelle
Age: 31
Location (optional):Brianna Louise
Children or due date:2-17-2000
A little about yourself: I have been a single mom this whole time.My daughters dad and I were engaged.Once he found out I was pregnant he hit the roof and cried to his mommy.Needless to say his family has never seen my daughter.I sent him pictures up until she was four...after that he quit asking and I quit sending.My daughter is beautiful and my world.I guess you can say i'm lucky, I don't have to worry about custudy issues.Sadly she has asked about him alot and theres not much I can say.

[Ash31184]

Hi sweetie! I feel your "pain", LOL. My son's "father" has a 5 year old daughter, who he spends weekends with. I can't understand it either. His father did give me a small insight into his behavior when he told me he doesn't like little boys. What can you do? I am sure you are a great Mommy!

[etisdale]

Name:Emi
Age 37
Location, Tx.
Due date: May 3rd 2010.
About myself. I am divorced, I have two girls 7 and 9 and I was in this new relationship pretty new and I got pregnant, it is ok, but I am a little affraid. He says he wants to be elvolved but it is me who don't want him been inlvoved. I want to deal with this bymyself, he is a sweet and nice guy, but all the sudden I think this is my baby only mine. He has previous children and two divorces and I am just not going to be the third one. I want to have thios child because I consider is a precious gift and I will love my baby. God bless you all.

[kmerts69]

Name: Kris
Age: 40
Location (optional): Wisconsin
Children or due date: DD - 5/12/2010; (2)DS - Matt 18, Jeremy 16
A little about yourself: I was newly divorced the end of June, 2009. I have been seeing a guy for about 11 months, met him not long after my separation.

I was 5 days late and had an annual exam scheduled anyway, so I told my NP and she wanted to do a PG test.....it came back positive. I really believed there was a LOT worse news that she could have given me and I am actually excited to be PG. My ex had a vasectomy after our 2nd DS and I never thought I would have another child.

My bf does not want another child....he has 1 DD (she's 9), whom he HARDLY ever sees...long story. Anyway, he is not happy that I'm keeping the child and even suggested WE (can you believe he said WE??) give it up for adoption....NOOOOO thank you.

I'm hoping he's going to come around in the near future, but I really don't know right now.

[austin hope]

Name: Hope
Age: 38
Location (optional): TX
Children or due date: 3 year old
A little about yourself: Tired of DH's crap and asked him for a divorce. Doesn't sound like he wants to be part of Maya's life after he moves out. He doesn't want any financial responsibility. My family is pretty useless -- as well as being a few states away so I don't have much support. Thankfully I can earn decent money to support Maya and myself... at least for now.

[ashleynb]

Hiii looks like i will be joining you guys!!

Name:Ashley
Age 23
Location, NC
Due date: Jan 1st. 2010
About myself. Me and the father were ttc for awhile i got pregnant and ending up having a m/c. We decided to try again and I became pregnant again. I found out that I was pregnant the day before he delpoyed (hes in the army). The next week I found out that he had cheated on me more than once before he deployed. Its hard to work things out when hes overseas but hes not even trying and he doesn't really seem to concerned with the fact that he is going to be a father. So as of now its just me and my little one on the way.

[auntie2monkeyman]

Name:Chelsea
Age:18
Location (optional): Ohio
Children or due date: July 18th or 19th
A little about yourself: Wasn't a planned pregnancy but things happen and I couldn't be happier. After a m/c in June we weren't planning on trying again. Turned into a single parent a couple days after told the DF. Now he just doesn't want anything to do with the baby and I...possibly due to his mother running her mouth about me...

[The10Eels]

Name: Ashley
Age: 23
Location (optional): Currently Missouri
Children or due date: Audrianna Tenielle - 7/16/08 and Charlene Rhaelynn ( Charlie) 10/19/09
A little about yourself: uhm, well... My husband recently asked for a divorce, and so here I am. My parents are coming to Missouri from Wyoming for Christmas, and I will be going back to Wyoming with my girls - going back to school, and getting a job (I haven't worked since Audrianna was born) to get on my feet.

[live4love]

I'm single, 35 and pregnant with my first. The father and I have been together for 4 years. He told me that he wants me to get an abortion but if I wont than he'll support the baby, but will not want to be in a relationship with me. Since then he's been a bit verbally/emotionally abusive and a close friend of ours encouraged me to tell him to stay away until he can curb his behavior. That it's not healthy for me to be around. I miss him already (he did have his good aspects), but I'm looking forward to meeting new people and making new friends.

[jennada123]

hi all, i'm 33, have three little ones, ages 4, 3, and 4 months. hubby was caught cheating less than a month after i had our son this past september. took him back like an idiot only to catch him on match.com less than two weeks later...blah blah blah, finally separation paper/divorce decree set. i'm better off w/o him but worry that i will never find a decent guy. but i guess that's the least of my concerns right now. my kids are happy so that's a huge relief, and life goes on.

[sobeit]

thought i'd post here too...

i am 44 years young, and planned this pregnancy using both egg and sperm donors, after a few years of TTC 'naturally', which was challenging to say the least as i did not have a partner! i would love to share my life with someone, but it's gotta be someone special.

soooo...i am due next week, officially, my first child, suprise if boy or girl. i am on mat leave after just finishing my first nursing job (just got degree) and bought a house. i feel really good about my life, but also know it will be a challenge to be a single-for-now mother.

i hope all single moms and moms to be are doing well and blessings for the babies and children in our lives!

[JulieP]

thought i'd post here too...

i am 44 years young, and planned this pregnancy using both egg and sperm donors, after a few years of TTC 'naturally', which was challenging to say the least as i did not have a partner! i would love to share my life with someone, but it's gotta be someone special.

soooo...i am due next week, officially, my first child, suprise if boy or girl. i am on mat leave after just finishing my first nursing job (just got degree) and bought a house. i feel really good about my life, but also know it will be a challenge to be a single-for-now mother.

i hope all single moms and moms to be are doing well and blessings for the babies and children in our lives!

Welcome and Congrats!!! I think your journey is amazing and I am sure you are going to be an awesome mother!

[aamcgee]

Name: April
Age: 20 (almost 21)
Location (optional): California
Due date: (10/24/2010)
A little about yourself: I'm a full time college student my major is Criminal Justice and I'll be done Dec 2010. Looking really hard for a job; i quit my job a little while ago (before I found out i was pregnant) i wish i didnt quit now. I'm so excited that I'm pregnant and nobody can take that away(even my baby father who wants nothing to do with this even thou we been together since 2006). I'm already in love with my baby and i'm only 6 weeks and one day pregnant!!
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[flolypops]

Name: Floy
Age: 23
Location : California
Children or due date: 28 July 2008
A little about yourself: Hi, I am a new to APA, but have enjoyed and been encouraged by many of the single mom stories. I am currently active duty in Information Technology Company. It is a really huge decision.

[SeeOurtney]

Hi! It's been pretty slow in here lately. My name is courtney, and I am a single momma. I'm 22 and my daughter is 18 months old. Her name is Ashlyn Mackenzie. She's the best baby ever :P I've been around APA for a while...since I started TTC with my ex. but for some reason am just now finding the single mammas room :P I'm kind of excited!

[alexis14]

Name: Alexis
Age: 22
Location (optional): Chapel Hill, NC
Children or due date: sex (?) March/April 2011
A little about yourself:
I'm a 22 year old student and UNC-Chapel Hill and I'm about to be a single mother. This is my first pregnancy and I'm extremely nervous and scared and EXCITED. I have tons of support from the baby's father, and all of my family and friends. Any and all advice is well received. All I know is what I read, but I would like to know first hand experiences of what I should expect.

[kmgirl]

Name: Kristen
Age: 24
Location: Bowling Green, KY
Children or due date: Ava - Jan 11th, 2008
A little about yourself: Me and my husband separated back in May...it was an abusive relationship in a lot of aspects that I had to get out of (long story, if you want the details, PM me). He was not allowed to have contact with me, and had supervised visits with Ava only. He committed suicide on 8/14...so its just me now. I'm thankful to be blessed with my sweet little girl tho :wub:

[takenandhappy]

Name: Ashley
Age: 21
Location (optional): New York.
Children or due date: Azara [22 months]
A little about yourself: I was a teen mother & im still with the father. Going on 4 years now. Azara's the highlight of our day & im excited to see what kind of person she will grow up to be :)

[squirrelgurl07]

NameVicki
Age 22
Location Michigan
Children Mera Lynn (11 months) and Tristan (died at 4 months)
About me

I get to fill this out again. Mera's daddy is only 18 and Im 22. There was major maturity issues. I met him when he was 16 and at the time we were only going to be a summer thing (despite my better judgement but at the time Tristan had just died so all I did was drink and smoke and be reckless). My birth control failed and I ended up pregnant. He stuck around and things were great utnil I found out hed been talking to a 16 yo (he was now 18). After that it turned nasty. We'd fight and all Id want was a hug and he would hit me. Finally one night he slapped me when I was holding Mera. I kicked him out and we've gotten together a couple times since then but I dont want him back....well I do but I don't want Mera seeing all that stuff going on.

Mera is an amazing girl and hes going to regret leaving her. He told me he wants to do this for him (dating mady the 16yo) and will come back eventually when hes "better" and Im like yeah sure ,don't bother

[KBean]

Name: Kalina
Age: 24
Location: Kansas
Children: Hunter, 16 months
About me: I'd been with my baby daddy for 5.5 years when we found out I was pregnant. He asked me to get an abortion and I refused. He was pretty awful during my pregnancy and after Hunter was born, he told me he wished Hunter had never been born and he regretted all the decisions he had made with me. Took me long enough to finally pack up my bags and leave! My son and I are so much better off and SO much happier without him.
I work a nurse and am finishing my bachelor's degree.

[The10Eels]

Wow, Kalina! I had no clue about your situation! Good for you for working to finish your degree!

[Papillon]

Guess it's time for me to be added to this list...

Name:Crystal
Age: 27
Location (optional): Dothan, Al
Children or due date: Dylan- 6-10-10
A little about yourself: student, business owner, and now single. I think though I'm gonna do the single thing for awhile, D and I are still friends-mutual separation- and we working on doing things right and friendly for Dylan. I'm going to take some time learn more about myself as a mother and individual and figure out how that mixes together.

[BleedingBlack]

Name: Cayla
Age: 26
Location (optional): California
Children or due date: Caydence 6; Serenity 2; Landen 7 months
A little about yourself: Well, after 7 years of being with my husband and of those 7 years, only being happy for approx 1.5 years... I finally couldnt take it any longer and filed for divorce. We are currently legally separated... waiting on our first court hearing. Anyway, I am not technically single... I did met someone else through my car club. Neither of us were looking... he was only supposed to fix my Mustang for me but we ended up really hitting it off and our relationship just grew. He's not only wonderful to me, he is great with my children. We are in the process of renting a 2500 sq ft home (hopefully it is ours!), getting the kids a dog after we move in, and continuing to ease into things, including marriage later down the road...I'm talking 2013 or so lol!

[LaBellaVita]

Name: Kelsi
Age: 20 almost 21
Location (optional): North Georgia
Children or due date: K (4 almost 5), H (2 1/2) and Baby G due in July.
A little about yourself: I really would have never wanted to be a single mom and I give kudos to all you girls that are. My husband committed suicide on the evening of April 14, 2011. I'll never understand it, as I can't even wrap my head around how he thought it would be okay to leave his wife and kids behind. It hurts. I'm just trying to adjust to doing things on my own right now and hope it all gets easier with time.

[catfish4]

Name: Kelsi
Age: 20 almost 21
Location (optional): North Georgia
Children or due date: K (4 almost 5), H (2 1/2) and Baby G due in July.
A little about yourself: I really would have never wanted to be a single mom and I give kudos to all you girls that are. My husband committed suicide on the evening of April 14, 2011. I'll never understand it, as I can't even wrap my head around how he thought it would be okay to leave his wife and kids behind. It hurts. I'm just trying to adjust to doing things on my own right now and hope it all gets easier with time.

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[newmom84]

Just found this room today, so I will go ahead and add.

Name: Amanda
Age: 27
Location (optional): Central Texas
Children or due date: Expecting Eli on 06/15/2011
A little about yourself: I work full time as an office manager in Austin, TX. I was dating baby daddy for all of 2010, we had broken up a week before I found out I was pregnant. We tried to make it work after that, but we are just two totally different people. Im excited and scared to take on this new role as momma. I know that it will be hard but I know that I can do it. I absolutely cannot wait to have my little guy in my arms. :wub:

[mamaslove]

Name: Joanna
Age: 22
Location (optional): California
Children or due date: 10 months old son, born on June 26, 2010
A little about yourself: Honestly my life's a mess now, father of the baby ran away and never stood up for me and the baby. He was just good at saying things rather than doing them and breaks his promises all the time. But I thank God for giving me a very loving , accepting and understanding family who always supports me and my baby love. Through thick and thin. And I know someday I'll get over this and move on and be a stronger, better person for my son.

[angelskii07]

Rachel
age-36
Ohio
I have 3 ages 15, 12, and 8
due date June 18th 2011

I am a single mother and Im starting over after 8 years. so a lil nervus about that but I can do it the BD is not around anymore and maybe thats best. My other childrens father passed away so I have been alone with them since 2007.

[rissatn]

:hi:
Name: Marissa
Age: 21
Location (optional): Minnesota
Children or due date: Kaylin Grace, born 1/30/2008
A little about yourself: I had my daugher when I was a junior in high school, I was 17. I had only been having sex with her father (my boyfriend of a year at that time) for 2 months when I got pregnant - we used a condom every time cause I was paranoid about getting pregnant, go figure haha. I graduated on time and with honors, top 10% of my class, while breastfeeding Kaylin for over a year. Her father and I broke up soon after graduation and he hasn't seen her since. She was 18 months then. Honestly, she and I are better off without him around, my family is super supportive and babysit when I have class/work (I'm going to college full time and work part time). But what ticks me off is that every once in a while a friend will tell me that someone else was talking to my ex and he had said how he would really like to see Kaylin. I always respond with "well, then he needs to contact me, that's why I left my ends of communication open." Which I have. I know he's full of it and just trying to make himself sound good - it's a small town, word gets around fast - but it doesn't get any less irritating... :headbang:
Sorry that this got so long, I just needed to get that out! :laugh:

[09Mommyof2]

Name: Michelle
Age: 25
Location (optional): Missouri (or as I like to call it, Misery)
Children or due date: DD is 3 and due with DS in 6 weeks!
A little about yourself: Where do I begin?? It's been a struggle for the past 3 years. Currently I'm 34 weeks pregnant with my second, I'm unemployed, and I'm living with a friend. I've been job hunting for the past 7 weeks as I just moved back here from Oklahoma, (which I loved!). The father of my 2nd is no longer in the picture and I doubt he ever will be, so I've been struggling with the idea of adoption vs. raising 2 kids on my own. I just don't know if I'm strong enough.

I pretty much have no one to talk to because my roommate constantly asks who am i talking to, where you going, what are you doing. He's driving me up the wall but I'd be homeless if it wasn't for him, so I'll put up with his sexual advances until I can get out of here!! Ugh. Anyway, that's me in a nutshell! :)