These kinds of feelings are totally natural. Bringing a new baby into the mix isn’t necessarily as life-disturbing as it is life-changing.
A new life disrupts everything, and it’s this action of changing and shaking up the comfort of things that brings the anxiety of a new baby to life.
Here’s some help in transitioning the family to the idea of a new sibling.
During your pregnancy
Ideally you’ll want to start talking about the new baby during your nine months of making him.
The extent to which you’ll discuss the new baby with your other children will be a decision that you and your partner make collectively.
Since you’re already a pro at this baby thing, you understand that children perceive time differently than adults. For this reason, it may be beneficial not to say “Your brother will arrive in a few months’ but rather, ‘Your brother will arrive when the summer gets here.”
Your pregnancy is a time when books about siblings, pictures about siblings, and overall discussions and engagement about this new baby should be had. Do your best to explain to your other children how exciting a time it will be once they get to meet their baby brother.
Labor and delivery
As your due date draws near, plan ahead to include your older children immediately after their sibling is born. Alone time with the family is crucial to help your other kids adjust to what just happened.
Everything will be so new to them – seeing mommy in the hospital, looking at this new baby, having lots of visitors – that, depending on the age of your other children, could prove to be a lot to stomach for them.
Do your best to include them in the excitement but also be alert to when they’ve had enough of the welcoming party. Children can get emotionally tired and drained just as they would physically, so be alert to the signs and respect them. If you see that your children are tired of all the hoopla, let them nap or let them relax and watch a movie.
Sometimes ‘alone time’ is what they need to comprehend things in their own way, process the information, and apply it to their daily doings.
Bringing the new baby home
Once you arrive home and get settled, you’ll be better able to form a pattern and a plan on situating the new baby into the scheme of daily life with your other children.
Newborns sleep a lot, so spending time with your other children is easy in the very beginning, but as your baby grows, your time will become split. Some families adjust to this with ease while others require some help.
Regardless, be intuitive to all of your family members. The trick is to find your balance and let everyone in the family become a part of this new child’s life in their own way and on their own time.
Forcing anything on anyone is never a good thing. Let everyone adjust and accept this life changing event in their own way and everything will fall into place accordingly.
About the author: Danielle is a freelance blogger and website content manager specializing in parenting, family, pregnancy, social media, and entrepreneurial topics. To learn more about Danielle, please visit her website at www.PenPointEditorial.com.