As a new mother, you have enough on your plate as it is, never mind hearing she-said he-said advice from others.
However, it’s important to point out some things that those closest to you may have overlooked while they were endlessly handing out baby advice when you were pregnant.
Here are four things you might want to know as a new mother.
1. You’ll Look At Your Own Mother Very Differently
Once you become a parent yourself, a lot of things change. Your view of the world changes, how you look at other parents changes, and how you view yourself will also take on a new light.
But probably one of the most concerning instances is that you will look at your parents, especially your mother, in a new and appreciative way.
You’ll instantly understand their struggles, their joy, and their determination to raise you into a well-rounded individual because you’ll want the same for your own children.
2. Your Baby Needs You Above Everything And Everyone Else
Your child is always, for the rest of their life, going to need you in the deepest and most coveted way possible.
Sure, dad will do, as well as grandma in certain instances — but there will never be another like their mother.
Your arms, your touch, your voice, your smell, even your habits and views will become so ingrained in them that they’ll never outgrow their need for their mother.
This mother-child bond has always been the most sacred and purest form of unselfish love that exists, and it’s a mighty power to have.
Understand that you have it, that your child craves it, and always be in pursuit to use it well and in the most respectful and nurturing manner possible for the rest of your life.
3. Life As You Know It Is Over
Forget going from the shower, to clothes, to the car in less than ten minutes — those days are long over, mama.
Your personal space is now forever shared with your children.
There is no more ‘me’, there is ‘us’.
You will forever be making decisions within the path of what’s best for you and your children.
And because being a parent is hard work, if you get even five minutes to yourself, it’ll feel like five hours.
Know that it’s okay to want your five minutes alone, and know that you deserve it. But then get back to reality.
4. You’ll Never Be Fully Prepared For Motherhood
There are always going to be things that are simply out of your control.
Simple things like your baby spitting up or not sleeping through the night to even the bigger things as they grow — when they get their license and why they aren’t getting along with that girl in their class.
So as much as you might be a control freak, or as much as you’d like to think you have everything under control, know that you don’t, and you won’t, and that’s okay.
What you can control, however, is your response to these situations. If you remain cool and controlled then your child will as well.
Remember that motherhood is a journey, and a never-ending one at that.
You and your children will always be learning together, growing together, and experiencing together. So make every moment count.
About the author: Danielle is a professional blogger, freelance writer, social media manager, and web content editor specializing in parenting, family, pregnancy, social media, start-ups and entrepreneurial topics. To learn more about Danielle, please visit her website at www.PenPointEditorial.com.