It’s easy to assume that our kids are simply instilled with the ability to whine at will, and sure they are, as are we as adults.
But what’s important is to understand the whys of whining and how we as parents can better deal with the root of the whining. Only then will we be able to conquer it and put into place better parenting techniques to avoid the whining episodes all together.
Here are three ways to help all of us parents do just that.
1. Connection Problems
I’m willing to bet that one of the top reasons children whine is because they feel a lack of connection to one or both of their parents.
This connection could be rocky because your child wants more of your attention, or they feel that they haven’t been heard and you were quick to dish out discipline, maybe even that their sibling started the fight but they got blamed for it because you didn’t take the time to listen to both sides.
There are endless possibilities as to why our kids feel disconnected from us as parents. But what’s important to realize is that this is our problem – not theirs.
Take the time to connect with each of your children to let them know they matter to you individually as well as a united family unit.
We all want to feel a genuine connection to our parents, regardless of our age.
2. Feeling Powerless
When anyone, not just our own children, feels like they’re not being heard, problems will arise.
Problems of helplessness mask themselves as all types of occurrences such as whining, acting out, rudeness, bullying, and the list goes on.
The last thing you want to do as your child is trying to explain themselves to you is to ignore them or shove their problem off until a later time.
When the whining begins, get down on their level, speak in a calm demeanor, and figure out what the problem is.
Hear your child out, hear their siblings out, then decide on a way to help the situation in a fair and loving manner.
You might feel their whining is trivial and unneeded but realize that they sure don’t.
They don’t have the mental capacity to understand that not going to the park today isn’t a huge life-stopping event in your adult world because, to them, it’s the biggest problem in their life right now.
Put yourself in their shoes for a moment and be sympathetic to their desires. Then hug them close as you all come up with a solution to the problem.
You know that feeling you get when you’ve had enough? That feeling when your mental state has reached it maximum capacity for nonsense and you need to sit down for a few, or cry, or be alone, or get out of the house for a while?
Your kids get like that as well.
Although they lack the ability to get away from it all since it’s our job as parents to watch them, keep them safe, and be with them at all times.
So sometimes they just reach the point that they need to let it out. Their frustrations may release themselves in the form of temper tantrums, whining, crying, tiredness, and even bullying.
That’s why it’s important for you to know your children – know their breaking points, their boiling points, and their melting points.
Divert their attention elsewhere if you sense some bad moods coming on – stop what you’re doing and give out some free hugs.
Keep your kids from coming near those whiny stages and watch the stubbornness become less and less frequent.
About the author: Danielle is a professional blogger, freelance writer, social media manager, and web content editor specializing in parenting, family, pregnancy, social media, start-ups, and entrepreneurial topics. To learn more about Danielle, please visit her website at www.PenPointEditorial.com.