Have you recently made the exciting decision to start growing your family? Are you and your partner actively trying for your first baby? Or maybe you’re wonderfully crazy enough to be ready for a second, third, or FOURTH (Oh My!) child. Either way, this can be an overwhelming time, emotionally; you’re anxious about when it will happen. Or for many of you, you may be wondering why it hasn’t happened yet. If that’s the case, this blog entry is for you!
One of the more common questions we get here at APA from women trying to conceive is how long it could take or why, after 3-6 months, it hasn’t yet happened. Many of these callers are trying for their first child, but others ,who easily got pregnant with their first, are now trying for their second or third. Either way, when speaking to these callers, we’re able to sense some confusion and a whole lot of concern about whether it could be a sign that something is wrong. Some are fearful they are eating the wrong thing, not getting enough exercise, having intercourse at the wrong time, or the worst thought of all, they are infertile. Of course, all of these things play a part in getting pregnant, but a key factor that many women forget is that it can simply just take time to conceive.
Whether you are trying for your first or fifth child, keep in mind that every woman and every pregnancy is different. Therefore, there is no one single expectation you can have when planning your conception. This is where the patience comes in (remember that title up there?). A lot of women are surprised to hear that for a healthy couple under the age of 35, it could take up to a year before conceiving. This seems like a long time to wait, but unfortunately sometimes you have to let the timing come to you. And of course, no matter how long it may take, it will always be worth it in the end.
I it is curious that some women are able to get pregnant on their first try (or when they’re not even trying) and it takes other women months or even over a year. There isn’t necessarily an answer as to why it comes easier for some, but it can often be a source for frustration and feeling of despair for a woman who is eager to have a child. If you are a woman who has been trying to conceive for several months and you are feeling defeated, try to keep the following in mind.
- PATIENCE IS KEY! A healthy couple under the age of 35 should wait until at least twelve months of trying before seeking help from a doctor. Couples over the age of 35 should seek help after six months.
- Take the time to understand how ovulation works and then make sure you’re tracking your own ovulation (Click here for more information about understanding ovulation).
- When you are ready to start trying, make an appointment with your doctor for a brief visit to find out if there are any foreseeable fertility issues. Keep in mind that some issues may not arise until you have been trying for a period of time.
- There are no magical foods or exercise that will enhance your chances of getting pregnant. As long as you are leading a healthy lifestyle, your body will be ready.